week 103: when in doubt, hug it out

your world (family, team, problems) need more hugs

thank you to over 11,000 of you who read this weekly and share with your friends and family for behind the scenes on building a million a 5 million dollar business from scratch and beyond.

i also include a personal note in the end so i am grateful that you let me do that without judgement.

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doubt.

it’s a daily thing and wonder. 

here are some of the decisions i struggle with:

- hire a full time or fractional leader to do some work - both have pros and cons

- focus on opportunity A or B - both are promising

- focus on internal or external issues - both need attention 

- focus on current financials or future growth options - neither could be ignored  

while right in the middle of it, i think of just pinching myself for the team and the opportunity we have. 

we truly “get” to pick these challenges.

but there is always a doubt and i have come to realize that when in doubt, hug it out - and the “it” could be a team member or a business problem.

everyone needs care and attention. 

when you “hug it out”, you give the team member or the problem, the permission to exist and now the healing and problem solving process begins.

the doubt is ever present, but when you hug it out, you get the strength to solve for it. 

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on a personal note, the last few months have been hectic and stormy to say the least at the Vajre’s.

they whole school year began with kids going to a new hybrid school (2-3 days of home schooling), kiara getting into tennis, krish wanting to do bigger and further away tournaments, my work load as a small business increased and the list goes on.

candidly, it has taken a toll on me and my family and that’s why we are going to take a month long vacay this summer - well at least 2 weeks for sure when i plan to switch off and the other two work from across the pond.  

but last week, my wife and i decided that no matter what, as a family, we will never go to sleep angry.

so i came up with this pretty cringy statement - “when in doubt, hug it out”.

just so it happens, last night, when something went wrong with krish during our weekly family Bible study, I got pretty upset and he had to leave the Bible study (how ironic, i know)

Manmeet called him back and he was still angry and so was i. 

but somehow I told him to come hug me.

it shook him, in a good way, and he asked, “why do you want to hug me in the midst of the issue?”

and i said - “bcos i love you and even though i don’t appreciate the behavior, i am not going to let the enemy win and us have a bad night.”

we hugged and magically all anger ran away instantly.

we finished well - almost with a laughter. 

there is magic in hugging and in love. 

try it and do it often. 

the world around us and our families need more hugs. 

give a hug to someone right now if you are near a loved one, you will thank me later.

Leader point: in business and in life, when in doubt, just hug it (family, team, problem) out and try to simply live it out.