week 119: bring your work (skills) home
its hard... no matter how you spin it
thank you to over 11,000 of you who read this weekly and share with your friends and family for behind the scenes on building zero to 10 million dollar business from scratch and beyond.
i also include a personal note in the end so i am grateful that you let me do that without judgement.
leaders get a lot of bad rap on bringing work, home.
i want to encourage you to bring work (skills) home.
i call it the MIBOW effect - it really doesn’t mean anything except it makes me remember what it stands for.
M - mission
I - incentive
B - blocking
O - one on ones
W - words matter
#1 mission statement - your one-liner is your legacy - no one will start a company without a mission or vision and a couple of core values. yet billions of people start a family without it. that’s a tragedy.
GTM Partners mission is to be the go-to for go-to-market.
Family mission is Vajre’s always make it thru with God’s love, grace and truth. we say this every time we pray as family and try to practice it (very unsuccessfully at times but we try)
#2 incentive driven goals - celebrate wins - people are creatures of habits. if you want rewards, you have to repeat and get better at things you get rewarded for.
GTM Partners incentive structure is that you get to work on great projects if you can commit and own it. at times i think when you are in thick of it this is the more important thanks anything else.
Family - i am known to repeat myself saying this: when you are done with what you need to do, you can do more… in other words… if you are done with work, practice, study, helping then by all means, you can watch TV or play video games. we “get” to do these things… entitlement is not a virtue.
#3 blocking time - distractions are not attractions - no one has more time but we waste time, all the time
GTM Partners - most of us block Mondays and Fridays to do internal meetings and focused work. i personally also do 2 hr work on Sunday afternoon to get ahead of my work week and not wake up with anxiety but rather excitement. as a team, we often block a chunk of time to get things done as a team and every time we do it, we recognize, we need to do it more often.
Family - most Saturday mornings we spend time writing cards to each other and share it. it easily takes an hour or two at times. we have been doing that for over 3 years and essentially we are creating a shared experience. its not always fun but it blocks time for something and someone really important, that is each other.
#4 one on ones - transformations happen in 1:1 - we rarely open up in groups
GTM Partners - i will call my partners and team and talk for a long period of time. we have a standing session just talk about things with no agenda. the agenda reveals itself.
Family - probably this is one area that i got really good at but then dropped the ball this year. it’s the area that is most neglected because it takes the highest level of intentionality and commitment. fortunately i get to do that with my son playing tennis so we have long rides together and my daughter as she wrote books and i got to work with her on it. i know that i need to get even better with my wife on this as that becomes really hard with young and active kids.
#5 words matter, actions matter more - do what you say otherwise no one will believe you
GTM Partners - we are very intentional about words - we don’t like to use words like prospects, upsell… rather we say future customers or up-severing because we believe that words can change the way we treat each other and what actions we perform
Family - i heard from a friend of mine that he sends a daily prayer to his family in text with no expectations and that it has been the single biggest way to connect daily. i started to do that since last few weeks. as i am reading thru the book of Proverbs, i can easily find a verse that speaks to me and the family and add my 2 cents to it and shoot it to my wife and kids… sometimes we talk about it and most times i just want them to know that i love them and thank God for them each and every day!
i’d love to know if you took something way from the MIBOW framework for your work and/or family.
leader point: work gives us meaningful skills and bringing those skills home, will give you more structure to be intentional at home, as you are at work.
This is a framework that I will want to print out and use to plan my weeks. It has great suggestions for prioritizing, as well as incorporating connection and gratitude into both work and family.